4 top tips for premature ejaculation, edging & more...
What is premature ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is when ejaculation happens more quickly during sex or masturbation than one or both partners would ideally like. You're having great sex, and everything's going well. You can feel the tension building. Then, BOOM! It's all over.
How can I help manage premature ejaculation?
It can be frustrating when you or your partner finishes before you've had a chance to get into the swing of things, but try not to let any disappointment get the better of you. Be kind, be tactful and definitely don't blame your partner.
And just because someone has climaxed, that certainly doesn't mean you have to stop the intimate experience! If you are worried about premature ejaculation, there are lots of things you can try before you seek help from your GP.
Read on for our tips and tricks to help the fun last longer.
1. Slow and steady...
Thrusting, stroking or rubbing like it's a race may feel great in the moment, but the chances are you or your partner will climax much faster that way. If you feel yourself building up to an orgasm, or you want someone else to last longer, try decreasing the intensity of whatever you're doing.
Think slow, shallow strokes rather than deep thrusts. Taking the attention away from the genitals, and towards areas that are less sensitive, can also stop things from escalating too quickly. And because you're not stopping completely, you shouldn't lose all that sexual excitement.
2. Get in position
Lots of people have preferred positions that they know will get them over the finish line in record time. If that's the last thing you want, try a position that can help prevent overstimulation.
Positions that allow for fairly shallow penetration, like penetrating your partner from behind whilst lying down, require a slow and shallow action which limits in-out penetration and overly intense stimulation.
3. Love rings
Cock rings, C-rings, penis rings, love rings... whatever you call them, these super simple sex aids can have amazing results.
A small stretchy ring that sits at the base of the erection, a love ring works by restricting blood flow out of the penis, which in turn can help to make erections feel harder and last longer.
Results vary but many people find these a useful aid.
Some offer additional vibrations, adding extra pleasure for your partner, but you can always switch these off or turn down the power if that is making it too intense for one or both of you.
4. Get the edge
Masturbating around two hours before sex can help to decrease your sensitivity, but this isn't always feasible. Another popular method that can be used to condition your body's responses during masturbation, is known as the 'stop-go' method, or also as 'edging'.
This is when, just before you feel that you're about to ejaculate, you stop, and wait 30 or so seconds, before continuing. You repeat this method until you build up a better pleasure tolerance level.
There are many toys you can use to help with this practice, and a stroker like the Lovehoney Mon Ami adjustable stroker or the Lovehoney Boost Stroker, is perfect for enjoyable edging practice.
